The New Year is coming and I predict that all of you single gals who are seeking men are going to be wanting some new ideas on how to make a love connection in 2009. I’m a huge believer in combining your quest to stay fit with your search for romance, so I’ve put together list of the five sports you might want to try to expand your fitness and dating horizons.
Even though we’re a blog for women, we like to honor men whenever we can! We love men, and we know all of you do too! We all have husbands, fathers, brothers, boyfriends, sons, uncles, grandfathers, and good male friends whom we are very thankful for on this Thanksgiving holiday! (How would we get that heavy turkey to the table without them?)
We women talk a lot about training our bodies and keeping our muscles toned, and for the most part, these conversations are limited to which butt exercises are working to give us a booty we’re proud of, or how we’re keeping our abs toned, or our triceps from going grandma on us. But we almost never talk about the muscles we can’t see - our Gynecological Goddesses.
Ironically, the muscles that are not on display often get ignored in our fitness routines, yet they play such a vital role in the functions that affect our overall sense of well being as women! Hello! Sex. Controlling your bladder. Important things, right?
Any muscles that can keep you from peeing your pants and also give you more and better orgasms are not muscles you want to ignore, ladies! In fact, they deserve to be high on your fitness priority list every week, if not every day! I’m talking about your pelvic floor muscles. These are the muscles that take a beating through childbirth, and the ones you use to stop the flow of urine mid-stream. They must be trained with the same dedication you have toward your pecs and glutes!
Remember the second big sexual revolution? The one in the 90’s, when the little blue pill was developed for men, allowing their limp snakes to slither and hiss again, when they had lost the power to do so on their own? Well, get ready for a third revolution, because the female version of a similar drug might be just a couple years away from hitting the market. (I’m still working on what the equivalent to “pop a pill, pop a boner” would be for a chick). If you have any clever thoughts on the matter, please let me know.
In the meantime, here are the facts. The drug company Boehringer Ingelheim is currently conducting clinical trials on a drug, Flibanserin, that is said to affect brain chemistry in such a way that it can turn frigid into frisky.
Halloween is the one holiday that truly separates the parents from their childless friends. The differences in lifestyle between women with kids and women without kids is magnified more at Halloween than any other time of the year.
To a mom, a costume party means dressing up the kiddos and heading to the neighbors to watch her little pirates and princesses bob for apples. To many of her single friends without kids, it means throwing on their best slutty nurse, cat, or French maid garb and heading to a booze-fest to bob for something else.
Girls, let’s be practical. There’s a limited number of hours in a week. If you’re single, and meeting someone for a great relationship is a priority, then some of those free hours have to be spent on activities that might allow you to meet a man. A lot of women are finding there are just too few hours in a week to do it all. If the time spent going to happy hours and surfing dating sites is cutting into your workout schedule, then it’s going to have a negative effect on your physique, which, in turn, will impact your health and your ability to attract a dude.
So what’s the solution? You combine the two endeavors. You find fitness activities that you like, that keep you in shape, but that also allow you to circulate with potential objects of desire. Welcome to the world of co-ed sports. I just heard the loud communal gasp of every woman who would rather swallow razor blades than be seen by a man without makeup and hair done. First of all, get over yourselves. All of you. Second of all, razor blades will do an unacceptable amount of damage to your trachea.
Last week in my article, Sexual Healing, I alluded to the fact that there are a few things about marriage that scare me. Actually, “frighten the hell out of me” would be a more accurate description. After reading that article, a Fit After Thirty reader forwarded me this amusing chain email, which truly sums up a lot of the reasons behind my trepidation about the institution of marriage. I think a lot of you married women may be able to relate to this. Enjoy the Chris Rock clip as well. I think he represents the male perspective on this subject in his usual hysterical fashion. Here’s the chain email content:
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There’s one thing that scares me about marriage. Well okay, more than one thing, but the one that’s top of mind is the fact that marriage seems to reduce the sex in a relationship. It seems like all the married people I know are getting laid less often than when they were dating each other.
I would think proximity and access to each other every day would increase it, but what do I know – I’m single and not having to contend daily with the concept that familiarity may in fact, breed contempt. I’ve heard all the reasons from both sides, on why sex dwindles in a lot of marriages.
Men say it’s because women stop wanting it, or become such naggers about other parts of the relationship that men get turned off. Women, on the other hand, say they would still want it if their men hadn’t gotten lazy with the emotional nurturance of the relationship by doing the sweet, romantic things they did while dating. Many women also complain about what I call “diet sex.” This is when men give up the Haagen Dazs brand of sex that was the norm before marriage, and exchange it for sex-lite which is the low fat, less sugar, no flavor version of sex. In other words, men take a lot of the good stuff, that women like, out of the recipe; such as long, passionate kisses, and other ingredients of foreplay. (Hell, I’ve had boyfriends that turn into lazy lovers after six months of dating, so I feel a woman’s pain if she’s stuck with sex-lite for years!)
